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Published on September 19, 2008 By Boudica In Just Hanging Out

I was reading the latest time and they had an article about ways to be of service.  One of the ideas was to rethink Christmas.  There are many programs to ensure that kids have a good Christmas but many times seniors are forgotten.  That is such a good description.  It is so sad that these people lead a rich, full life and at some point, they are just forgotten.  Many are alone and lonely.  I think I am going to contact my church and see if we can come up with some kind of outreach to seniors. 

My new job is at a car dealership and I like to chat with the customers waiting to get their cars serviced.  It is obvious that many of older people have no one to talk to.  These are the ones that are actually getting out and most likely have some money or they wouldn't be taking their car to the dealership for service.   There are many others, like my own grandma, who can't drive anymore and rarely get out of the house. 

One thing that just burns me up is when people talk to seniors like they are little kids.  They are not little kids.  They deserve some respect and kindness.   I don't know about the thinking on some social experiments but I remember watching a show about group living.  This was a community of all ages, retired, young marrieds, families that lived together and ate communal meals.  It was so nice to see the interaction of all ages.  It seems wrong for the old folks to go off and live by themselves.  It seems right for them to still be a part of the community and society.  I understand that there are health issues and some people need medical care and that is why they choose to live in an assisted living. 

While I'm on this ramble, I remember reading about a senior center that received donations of donuts.  They decided that they were not going to provide them to the guests because they weren't healthy!  Ridiculous, these are grown men and women, adults, not children.  I think they are fully capable of choosing what they do and do not want to eat.  I am sure there are some who would rather eat fresh fruit and there are some who would rather eat a donut.  This is what I mean by treating seniors like children. 

 

 


Comments
on Sep 19, 2008

We used to do a stocking outreach for seniors.  We spent a month or so gathering stocking stuffers and then have one night where we'd get together and stuff the socks and then head out.  We had names and addresses ahead of time .  Since we lived in a small town it was easy to know who was living alone.

 Two by two we'd knock on doors, go in visit with the particular senior, maybe have a cup of tea and then give them their stocking.

We'd meet back at the church for some cocoa and cookies and sharing with each other the response of the much appreciative seniors.  I'm not so sure it was the stockings they enjoyed as much as the company but it meant alot to them to be thought of. 

They loved it. 

If you know some creative ladies they can knit these stockings ahead of time and that would be their contribution to the cause. 

on Sep 20, 2008

So when did you get the new job?  And Congratulations!  Guess I have been remiss of late.

And you are right.  They are not children, but too often we are trying to protect all - even rational adults - from themselves.

on Sep 20, 2008

thing that just burns me up is when people talk to seniors like they are little kids.

I notice this when I take my parents (who are in their eighties) tot he doctor's office and how those cute little twentysomething nurses who think they are just SO hot talk down to them. Makes me sick. One of these days I'm going to break the sad news to them and remind them that their youth will one day -quicker than they think- fade and they'll be old too.

on Sep 21, 2008

talk down to them.
  This is exactly what I'm talking about.  It drives me crazy.  People just don't seem to have any respect for anyone or anything anymore.  Ah...kids these days - lol. 

So when did you get the new job? And Congratulations! Guess I have been remiss of late.
  Thanks.  I don't know if I really blogged about it or just mentioned it in a comment.  Yes, I am working outside of the house now.  I am a receptionist/file clerk for a car dealership.  I was sad to say goodbye to my daycare kids but I am enjoying being out of the house and with grown-ups. I am hoping to move up to a more challenging position and am also considering going back to school if it is possible.  I enjoy my job but it doesn't pay well enough for it not to be a constant financial struggle to support my boys.  I would rather sacrifice for a couple of years to go to school and then be more financially secure than have to struggle financially for the rest of my life.  I just am going to have to find a way to increase my earning potential and school seems to be the best way to do that. 

Right now I'm just trying to figure out a way to get my car repaired so it will pass inspection and pay for a lawyer so I can be officially divorced and move on with my life. I had applied for legal aid but recieved a letter saying that they didn't have the resources to take my case at this time.  Lawyers are so expensive.  Though I did recieve a wonderful pick me up from a generous Joeuser that helped me to subsidize a shopping trip to buy my boys jeans and jackets for fall. 

We'd meet back at the church for some cocoa and cookies and sharing with each other the response of the much appreciative seniors. I'm not so sure it was the stockings they enjoyed as much as the company but it meant alot to them to be thought of.
  I think that is a fabulous program. 

I've promised my parents that as long as I'm alive, they will never be stored away in some old folks home like that.
  I understand that some people need constant medical care but I think it is immensely preferable to keep seniors in their own home as long as possible.  I would hate to be in a nursing home.  They have no privacy and no control over their own lives.  They are told what to do and when to do it.  I don't want to work hard my whole life to end up not even having the freedom to sleep in if I'm feeling lazy or eat what I want or be forced to participate in activities I have no desier to participate in.  I think it would be like being in prison.  I hope that you're parents health and finances allow them to keep their independence.  I want that for everyone.